Are You Mean to Yourself?
May 14, 2018
On the bulletin board next to my desk hangs a sign with the
following words:
I’m mean to myself sometimes, and I’m betting you are, too. For instance:
- When you goof up, do you replay the mistake in your head, over and over again, mentally cringing at your error? Do you think you shouldn’t have made a mistake?
- When you’re sick, tired, or just not feeling up to par, do you always “power through,” regardless of how you feel?
- Does your inner critic receive your full attention and agreement when he/she begins to speak?
- Do you practice real self-care on a regular basis? By real self-care, I mean things like eating a healthful diet, sleeping enough, using stress-relief techniques when you’re feeling anxious—generally, just taking care of yourself.
For our own happiness’ sake, I think we should be nicer to ourselves all the time, even when we feel we least deserve it.
A few ways to be nice to yourself include:
Treating your body lovingly. Feed it well, move it, let it rest.
And talk to it nicely. Go slow enough, or take enough breaks during the day,
that you can hear what it has to say.
Having more fun! Schedule at least one thing just for
fun every day. Working out doesn’t count, unless you do it for fun. Maybe it’s
a half hour of reading at lunchtime, a glass of wine with your partner before
dinner, or playing a game with a friend online. Whatever simple pleasures make
your heart happy.
When you are kinder to yourself, you’ll probably find it
easier to cut everyone else some slack as well. We’re all imperfect, we all
lose concentration now and then, we—gasp—make mistakes! It’s much easier to be
patient and forgiving with others when that’s “where you live,” so to speak.
Being nicer to ourselves is not only a way to feel happier,
it is also one way to add to the sum total of kindness and gentleness in the world—something
the world desperately needs.
How are you mean to yourself? What can you do today to be
nice to yourself?
2 comments
Kathy this was such a great post - been hearing similar thoughts from other sources. Maybe God is trying to tell me something. Thanks for the reminder. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteMaybe so, Debbie. I can't really imagine your being mean to anyone, including yourself, though. :)
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