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| Paris in 2018 |
Recently, I’ve bumped into the French term la rentrée
three separate times. First in a book I was reading, and then in a couple of
online articles. Many people in France take at least a two-week vacation in
August, often fleeing the city for the countryside and a true break from their
everyday lives. Là rentrée refers to the return to
school and office in September following the long vacances of August. It
was described as a time of celebration, renewed energy, joie de vivre, enthusiasm.
Even though I didn’t just have a glorious August vacation, I am embracing the coming of Fall and a more celebratory approach to life. September always feels like a new beginning (yes, I realize that it’s almost October...), so it’s time for a Fall Fun List.
I have until Dec. 21 to accomplish the following things:
- Decorate the house for fall
- Burn fall-scented candles and diffuse fall scents in my essential oil diffuser
- Bake sourdough bread using my “mother”
- Write a letter to someone (friend or relative)
- Play cozy ambience music videos on YouTube (like this one)
- Enjoy a pumpkin spice latte and other fall foods and drinks
- Eat pomegranates
- Watch Barbie with a friend
- Choose and order a 2024 planner
- Celebrate Thanksgiving with the family
- Take a trip to a local nursery and decide what, if anything, I want to plant for our fall/winter garden
- Attend the first three musicals of my Broadway series at the Straz Center in Tampa (The Choir of Man, Beetlejuice, and Funny Girl)
- Sit outside and enjoy cooler weather—if we get some by Dec. 21
- Change out fall house decorations for winter (I usually do this around the beginning of December)
I’ve already started decorating the house, burning a
fall-themed candle (this one), and had my first pumpkin spice latte, so I’m off
to a good start!
Keeping in mind the spirit of là rentrée, what are your
fall fun list plans?
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“Everywhere you look, you see people pursuing happiness as if it were something they could capture and cage. But pinning happiness down only destroys it. It’s too wild for that—it needs room to roam. You have to give it time, let it wander, surprise you.”
—Richard J. Leider and David A.
Shapiro, Repacking Your Bags: Lighten Your Load for the Rest of Your Life
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| Three of the the 36 |
Even though the weather hasn’t gotten the memo yet, summer is on its way out. Labor Day has come and gone, kids are back in school, and pumpkin spice rules the land. So it’s time to evaluate my Summer of Kathy and start thinking about plans for September through the rest of the year.
Summer fun list success
I did very well with summer fun list, checking off all but
two items! I didn’t relax as much as I wanted to and had planned to. Instead, I
filled my days with small tasks that, when added up, kept me from doing the
deeper work I still need to do emotionally. I guess I wasn’t ready for it, though
overall I feel like I’m healing. This is still a work in progress, but that’s to be expected.
Here's the rundown (completed items in red):
- Paint my toenails a color other than pink. (With dubious results, but at least I did it. The jury is still out on whether or not I like teal toenails.)
- Have a bubble tea.
- Try a new obedience training program with Luna (started). Ongoing!
- Make key lime pie ice cream.
- Plant a small, potted herb garden. And it survived the summer!
- Read a lot. Total books read June through August: 36. Whoa.
- Take a horseback riding lesson. Tank is semi-retired and off for the summer, but there’s a new horse at the barn available for lessons. I haven’t taken a lesson in more than five years, so I need a tune up. Also was able to ride Tank twice!
- Work at least one jigsaw puzzle.
- Have a massage. I’ve been trying to do this since the beginning of the year, but I’ve had to cancel two appointments because of my moms’ failing health.
- Go to a movie with my husband. (Mission: Impossible Dead Reckoning Part One.)
- Bake something from my grandma’s baking book (inherited from my mom).
- Get together with friends—I’ve been mostly unavailable in 2023, so we have some catching up to do.
Fall fun and beyond
With summer winding down, it’s time to think about fall fun,
and get more serious about figuring out what comes next professionally. (Ramp
up the freelance writing or try something new? If so, what?) As the
weather cools and time continues to heal, I’m cautiously optimistic about the
rest of the year. We have a couple of family and friend visits to look forward
to, and will likely host at least one holiday at our house. Now that our caregiving duties have ended, my
husband and I can think about taking a trip together.
There’s much to love about September and fall. In September,
I always love to watch the light change. Somehow it’s softer, mellower. Even
though it’s not cool yet, I have already had my first pumpkin spice latte. I’m
going to try Wendy’s new Pumpkin Spice Frosty. I have a September-themed book
on hold at the library (of course I do) and I’m dreaming of ways to enjoy the
fall season’s simple pleasures and everyday adventures. Perhaps I’ll extend The
Summer of Kathy (however, I’m not calling it “The Fall of Kathy”—that just
sounds scary)…
How was your summer? What plans do you have for fall?
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And just like that, it’s September.
There’s an old tradition that saying the words “rabbit
rabbit” before saying anything else on the first day of a new month will bring
you 30 days of good luck. Though I’m not especially superstitious, when I woke
up at 4 a.m. this morning, I whispered, “rabbit rabbit.” I could use a little
good luck.
I’m looking forward to September and all it’s pleasures, though there will be one notable sad milestone to navigate—my mom’s birthday.
I’m grateful that Hurricane Idalia passed by without doing any damage to us personally, though many others can’t say the same thing. However, some of the most powerful hurricanes have blown through in September (Ian, Irma), and I won’t really relax until hurricane season is over in November.
For now, I’m happy to watch the light change, to check my
weather app for any change in dew point and humidity (a vain hope in September,
usually, but I can dream), and to enjoy the fact that fall is coming. Even if
it’s not a “traditional” fall, it should usher in some change, even if it’s
just in décor. I love decorating my house and front porch for fall and will be
getting the decorations out of the attic soon. A simple pleasure I look forward
to all summer.
What are you looking forward to in September?
This Farmer’s Almanac article explains a bit of the tradition
surrounding “rabbit rabbit.”
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| A small, cute thing |
Over the past 14 years of writing posts for Catching Happiness, I’ve returned to one topic quite a few times.
Baby steps. Tiny habits. Happy little things.
Small is big.
This week I was thinking about writing another post on this topic, but decided not to. I stand by what I wrote in the past! Instead, I’m compiling a Link Love from my own archives. Here are a few Catching Happiness posts about the glory of the small (click the title to read the entire post):
In “Thinking Small,” I talk about breaking through resistance
by taking the smallest “next step” possible. I concluded, “Big dreams and new,
improved habits are made up of many tiny steps. A happy life is made up of
small, simple pleasures and everyday adventures—the cup of tea, the walk with
the dog, the movie night with your spouse or best friend, the work project done
well and turned in on time. Thinking small can make a big, big difference.”
I invented a new word in “The Power of Little Things.”
One of my first posts about the power of small was “Just Call Me a Tortoise.” In it, I praise the practice of taking baby steps: “The
beauty of baby steps is that if each small step is solid, you’ll find yourself
making steady progress. You’ll be less likely to stagger forward then backward
in fits and starts. In this way, you will go slower to go faster.”
I listed a few small things I love, with pictures, in “The Beauty of Small Things.”
“Painless Progress” describes the Japanese concept of kaizen.
“Kaizen is the process of continual improvement through small and incremental
steps. It started as a Japanese management concept and continues to be used in
business, as well as in areas such as psychology and life coaching. It reinforces
my belief that as long as you keep moving forward, even if by baby steps, you
will eventually get where you’re going.”
Finally, in August of 2021, I was feeling especially overwhelmed.
(Kind of like now.) “Something Small or Nothing at All” was my attempt to find
inspiration and motivation to do something, anything.
Rereading these posts reminded me of what I firmly believe: baby
steps, tiny habits, small changes—and yes, happy little things—make a real and
lasting difference. Starting now, I’m reviewing what small habits and changes I
can commit to so that I can finish this year of loss in a stronger, happier
place.
What are a few of your favorite small habits?
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“Sometimes the people you love leave you even when they don’t want to and you shatter into pieces. You may not be able to find all of those pieces again because when they left they took a few with them. It hurts, but the pain eventually becomes bearable and even sacred because it’s how you carry the people you’ve lost with you. And if you’re lucky you can one day see that the hollow spots you carry are in the shape of their face or their hands or the love they gave you. Those holes ache, but they are a monument to the lost, a traveling sacred place to honor them and remind you of how to love enough to leave your own marks on others.”
—Jenny Lawson, Broken (in the Best Possible Way)
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