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“Hope comes in many forms: If you want to have hopeful feelings, do hopeful things.”
—Anne Lamott
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“Hope comes in many forms: If you want to have hopeful feelings, do hopeful things.”
—Anne Lamott
I finished reading Kristin Lavransdatter this week. All 1,124 pages of it.
And I have to say that I truly enjoyed immersing myself for
two months in Kristin’s world (14th century Norway), following her
from childhood to old age (50ish!).
I usually read fast. There are so many books I want to read
that I tend to gobble them up as quickly as possible. However enjoyable that
may be, there are times, maybe more times than I want to admit, when I would
benefit from and enjoy slowing down my reading pace. Maybe to savor the images
or language, to learn something, or to spend time with characters I like,
getting to know them better.
A longer, more complex book naturally makes me slow down. I’d
like to intersperse more of these types of books with my lighter (and quicker)
reading, but sometimes I’m loathe to commit to a longer book—if I get bogged
down, I might not read anything, and that’s unacceptable!
Our culture encourages the fast and the surface, skimming
and sound bites rather than in-depth study and understanding. We are drowning
in “content,” and not necessarily better off than before the internet and the 24-hour
news cycle. I’ve noticed a drop off in my ability to concentrate on longer pieces
of writing. Conditioned by social media and blog posts, my ability and patience
to read a longer work—online or off—has suffered. Partway through, my attention
wanders and I start skimming. I don’t like that.
I also want to read slowly for the sake of pure enjoyment more
often. Allow a book to fully sink in before moving on. How many times have I
loved a reading experience, and by the end of the year, forgotten the main
point of what I read, or at least the details of it? I’m hoping that reading
slowly more often will improve my reading comprehension and sustained attention.
I was able to enjoy Kristin Lavransdatter slowly, while
at the same time reading other, lighter books because I made a plan. When I
commit to a book I know will take me a while to finish, I know I’ll want to read
some of it every day in order not to lose the plot or momentum. Since I also
want the freedom to read other things at the same time, I divide the length of
the longer or more complex book into the length of time I want to commit to finishing
it and come up with a number of pages to read every day. If I read more sometimes,
that would be fine and would make up for any days I might not be able to read
my page allotment. (I am also willing to abandon books altogether if I find I strongly
dislike them. Life’s too short to read books you hate.)
Happily, I loved being immersed in a different place and
time. Visiting snowy Norway every day has helped me pass the hot Florida summer
more pleasurably. I loved getting to know a character more deeply, in this
case, seeing a personality develop over a lifetime. I found peace and comfort when
I sank into Kristin’s world every day.
I won’t entirely give up on reading fast. Some books are
tasty snacks, meant to be ingested quickly. Much of what I read is strictly for
entertainment. But I enjoy knowing that I can commit to a longer or more complex
book and still be able to enjoy quicker, easier, and/or more “fun” reads along
with that deeper read. It feels good knowing I can stick to a plan and conquer
a big book.
What’s next? Right now, I’m reading a few pages a day of Native Nations, and in future, I’d like to tackle a one-chapter-a-day slow read of War and Peace, as mentioned by Laura Vanderkam. I’m happy to have rediscovered how much pleasure there is in a long, slow read.
Do you enjoy reading longer books? What does your reading
life look like?
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Much of the U.S. is sweltering right now, so indoor pursuits sound much more appealing than outdoor ones (though as you read this, I’m at the beach…sweltering). Even though much of the online world is a hot mess too, here are a few interesting and uplifting internet destinations for you to check out.
Visit Action for Happiness for a monthly calendar of daily
actions for a happier life. Every month has a different theme.
I’m currently incorporating a few of these suggestions from
Courtney Carver’s “7 Simple Shifts to Trade Overwhelm for Joy,” specifically numbers
one and three.
Thanks to Laure Ferlita, I recently discovered Filling the Jars. I especially enjoyed “10 Simple Daily Habits to Start This Summer for a Calm and Soft Life.” Summer in Florida is hard for me; these slow and soft practices are helping me enjoy some things about my least favorite season.
“Your Guide to Not Getting Murdered in a Quaint English Village” made me chuckle. A must-read if you, like me, love a cozy English village mystery. Tip: avoid the village shop. “They sell cheese, stamps, tea, and death.”
The news isn’t all bad. Click here for a roundup of good news stories from around the world. Their newsletter always encourages me.
I found the topic of “psychological minimalism” intriguing since I’ve been known to overthink things as well as become overwhelmed by the onslaught of news, notifications, information, and just plain mental noise.
Even if you don’t consider yourself “creative,” this is an inspiring watch:
Note: Catching Happiness is taking a
summer break. See you in a couple of weeks!
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In December, we bought a robot vacuum. It sat in its box until a few weeks ago because we still had too much stuff sitting on the floor waiting for a permanent home. Then, once we had unpacked and put away those things, I got stuck on naming the vacuum, because I am that (crazy) person.
Initially, I wanted to name it “Rosie,” (or Rosey) after the robot maid on The Jetsons. But Rosie is the most common name for Roombas, something I learned when I looked up “robot vacuum names” (because I am also that crazy person). On that list of names, “Vlad the Inhaler” made me laugh out loud, so Vlad became our Roomba’s name.
Once Vlad had been christened, we sent him off to map the house
before his first job. Vlad bumbled through our rooms, smacking into walls, crawling
under furniture, and generally looking like a large, intoxicated hockey puck.
This was perfectly normal, according to the operating instructions. (The final
map of the house said we have five living rooms and our third bedroom is labeled
a bathroom, but oh well.)
I’ve been known to take life lessons from unlikely places (see here and here), and it struck me, as I watched Vlad do his thing, that there are some lessons to be learned from a robot vacuum.
Vlad has been on the job for several weeks now, and in
addition to the pleasure of not having to vacuum as much (Vlad is imperfect,
after all), it makes me smile just to see his name on the app. Choosing to enjoy
the little things and looking for unusual ways to reinforce positive beliefs
can help us feel happier. Have you taken any life lessons from an unusual
source? Please share!
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And just like that, here we are smack in the middle of 2025. A good time to review how the year is going—if you have any special goals or plans, how are you progressing? Has this year held any surprises?
I feel a little weird doing a mid-year review because I didn’t set any big personal goals in January that need to be checked on. (Did I? *Checks notes* No, I did not. And that “setting goals by quarter idea? Nope, didn’t do that, either.) Still, I think it will be helpful to review what I have done, and think about what I might like to do during the remainder of the year.
Here’s what I did: Other than the normal tasks of life and a
bare minimum of writing, the first six months of 2025 have been devoted to preparing
and selling our family home of 28 years, and getting settled in our new home.
That’s it, and that’s OK. Most of my time has gone to
coordinating (and helping with) home repairs and remodeling, unpacking,
organizing, and simply figuring things out. Even though I love my new home, moving
is stressful. It takes an emotional and physical toll. I love to check off goals,
but some seasons it’s not possible. My personal projects and goals had to step
back while I dealt with the admittedly major projects of selling a house and
moving.
Looking back over my calendar I also see plenty of meet-ups
with friends, a couple of movies with my husband, regular walks and yoga
sessions. I’ve read a lot of good books and seen a favorite author in person. And—control
your excitement—I renewed my driver’s license. This has been hanging over my
head because I had to appear in person with multiple proofs of my existence so I
could become Real I.D. compliant. It was a hassle, but it’s done.
All of this is the stuff of a busy season of normal life.
Being able to find satisfaction in it is a wonderful thing. I’m learning that I
don’t have to check a flurry of personal projects off a list to feel contentment.
That said, I do enjoy setting goals and accomplishing
projects. I’d like to be able to have more to show for 2025 than just getting
settled after the move.
While I didn’t lay out a bunch of goals to work towards at the beginning of the year, I did fill out Gretchen Rubin’s “25 in 25” list with a combination of things big and small, fun and tedious, that I’d like to have done by the end of the year. I’ve completed 10 out of my 25, including “Finish Agatha in Order project” and “Design and install a closet system for our bedroom closet.” I’m 90+ percent done with two more. Not bad, about halfway done at the mid-year mark.
Ease was and is a great choice to guide me in 2025.
It reminds me not to pack too much into my days, weeks, and months. It
also encourages me to look for the ease-ful way to approach various
challenges. Instead of rushing headlong into whatever-it-is, take a beat to
consider what might be the most mental- and physical-energy saving way to
proceed. Also consider whether that whatever-it-is is necessary at all. Especially
during summer, I’m better off conserving my energy for what is truly important.
When I have a choice of activities, I consider which one feels more aligned
with ease.
Which brings me to what’s next. We’re not done with house
stuff (will we ever be?!). There’s a leak in a wall which pushed our
prospective bathroom reno higher on the schedule. We need cabinetry installed
in our laundry room. My office is still a work in progress, and I still have
some sorting and storing to do. My husband and I need to take at least a
weekend getaway to completely disconnect from all of the above. I still want to
go to California to visit family, but that has been pushed into the fall
because of a family member’s surgery.
After so much turmoil over the past couple of years, I want
to feel calm, joyful, and at least a little bit in control of my days. I want
to be relaxed, but also productive. Maybe that means choosing just one or two
goals or projects, rather than 12 which is my usual tendency. Concentrate on
the house and on scheduling that weekend getaway. Fight the urge to commit to more. For July,
August, and September, keeping it simple and low-key feels right. October, November,
and December will have a different vibe, usually a more energetic one, and I
hope and plan to capture that energy.
I share my goals and mid-year reviews here because I think
part of a happy life includes, as Gretchen Rubin puts it, an atmosphere of
growth. I like sharing progress with you, my online friends, because I hope it sparks
ideas for what could add happiness to your life. I share missteps because that’s
real life, no matter what social media tells you. Mistakes Will Be Made. We all
fall short from time to time, we all sometimes take a different path from the
one we thought we’d be on, sometimes on purpose and sometimes because of life
being life-y.
If you’d like to share what you’ve been up to so far in 2025, please do so in the comments below. I’d love to hear how it’s going, and what plans you have for the remainder of the year!