“I don’t know.”
Not “I can’t.”
Because, really, you don’t yet know if you can do it or not, because you haven’t tried. You don’t know what is possible.
Some other alternatives she came up with included: I haven’t up until now. I haven’t done that yet. In the past, I haven’t tried that.
These phrases leave the door open, instead of slamming it shut with an “I can’t.” I’ve found “I don't know” very helpful when I’m offered the chance to do something that scares me. I don’t always rise to the challenge—but sometimes I do.
What are some things you say to yourself when faced with a challenge?
What's to be scared of?