 |
| Interesting perspective in this photo by sergio souza on Unsplash |
I have a judgmental brain. Whenever something happens to me,
I want to slot it away in either a “good” or “bad” mental filing cabinet. There
are many problems with that, including that few things are entirely good
or bad, and it’s often unclear what the long-term outcome of any one occurrence
will be. Sometimes things that appear positive end up being negative, and vice
versa. Good comes out of bad all the time…and yes, vice versa.
Much of that has to do with our own perspective, how we see
things.
Instead of immediately jumping into judgment about the
goodness or badness of something, I’m experimenting with the phrase, “That was
interesting.” It’s a way to at least hit the pause button before judging—or most
likely getting upset—to give myself time to think instead of simply react.
I’m not the only one with a judgmental brain. Our world is
filled with hotheaded, all-or-nothing folks, who don’t allow for any sort of
nuance. Who believe in “my way or the highway” and refuse to listen and learn
from anyone else. If they (we) would respond with “That was interesting,” we
might be able to understand others better, and even find common ground.
This is just something I’ve been thinking about lately. What
do you think? Do you have any tools you use to avoid making snap judgments, or
to stay calm in the face of the unexpected or unnerving? Please share!
